Actually, throughout history, love holds no boundries to any place or time, and if you honestly get your rocks off on someone elses pain and anguish, that's just a form of weakness. His choice is his choice, just like it's yours to have this "real life" experiance you so say you have had. Truthfully, in image and projection, the real loser is yourself. Get a life and quit polishing your protractor at the meer sight of others issues.
Mike, I'm sorry bro. You know if you need to talk, I have always been around to assist that need.
Take care of yourself and don't forget about me, and what I have given you for advice in the past. Words of wisdom from a friend can be the best asset through tough situations. Trust me, I have been there, not as much online, but in real life.
So, take care.